We all make choices. Some of our choices both help and hurt at the same time. They are beneficial but uncomfortable. They are right but they go against the grain.
When you have a debilitating illness, there are certain medications that are prescribed which alleviate pain and the body’s response to illness but at the same time take their toll in other areas.
To help me manage the effects of Motor Neurone Disease (muscle fasciculate, cramps, shakes), my neurologist has given me medication. Unfortunately the drugs come with warnings of blurred vision, dizziness, drowsiness, high blood pressure, weight gain etc. You get the picture.
It’s the dilemma of many people in our world who neither choose the illness, nor choose the effects the drugs may have. But in the end we make a decision, it’s the lesser of these evils.
I wonder, how do you make the right choices in life? Choices like:
What medication do I take, if any?
Will I marry this person?
What degree do I study?
Should we start a family?
Should we buy a house?
Do I spend $200k on a trial drug?
Do I want quality of life or extended life?
Here is how I try to make the right choice.
Don’t let happiness be your guide, let peace. When you have peace, joy is around the corner and joy is a necessary ingredient for lasting happiness and satisfaction. As one person put it, “Being sick well means living with joy despite the illness.”
Seek counsel from experts in their field and wise people. Remember sometimes those with knowledge aren’t the ones who have wisdom. Wisdom is knowing how to use knowledge. Give time to thoughtful contemplation, this is different to just accumulation of facts. Value other people’s opinions but remember they may have different values and life goals to you.
Consider this: what will be the impact on others? Try, to the best of your ability, to play out the consequences and see if it ends with increased experiences of love for you and the ones closest to you. Don’t base your decisions on what YOU want but on what is needed.
Allow your heart to get involved and search for what is instinctively true and right. I’m not talking about what feels good to the senses but what has a deep and pervading “I know” attached to it. It reaches to the personal integrity of what you believe is morally and ethically right.
For me, the Bible has given me some moral and ethical absolutes and prayer helps me practice those by God’s grace. Sometimes the absolutes outweigh the popular and the majority.
Your decision to have life may mean certain things you now live with must die: bad habits, unhealthy relationships, negative thought patterns. In this way, sometimes life is found in death. Don’t let pride or fear stop you from changing a wrong choice or making a right one.
Making the right choice, even those that hurt, is a balance between heart and head. I would encourage you to trust yourself and know yourself, don’t fear what others may think. Sometimes the right decision costs us something personally.
Remember this, right decisions take courage no matter what the outcome may be.
My hope for you today is that you choose the best life possible.