Last week I was telling my psychologist how frustrating the changes in my body are. The simple things, like I have to wait for one of my sons to come over to carry salt to the swimming pool.
She said, “change will happen, sometimes we must learn to live with change being the new normal”.
What is the secret to a happy and content life? I think it is learning to be content in whatever situation you find yourself in: single, married, sick, healthy, rich, or poor. It’s a contentment that comes from within.
Philippians 4:12 says “I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation.”
Contentment is not conning yourself, psyching yourself up, or pretending you like what you really don’t like. That isn’t contentment — that’s fake.
Contentment is taking stock of your attitude and deciding that with Christ’s presence in you, you can cope! You can handle it! You are sufficient for the problem!
Contentment is not apathy, laziness, or complacency. If you can change a situation, you don’t need to be content and lay in it — maybe you need to get up and do something about it.
Where you really need to master the art of a learned contentment is in the situations that you can’t control: those things that are beyond you.
So how do you do that? I have learned a couple of ways:
One is to avoid comparison.
There will always be people that make more money than you, who have greater opportunities than you have, or who have fewer problems. So what? That need not have any bearing on your own personal contentment.
Howard Hughes, a business magnate and Hollywood socialite, was once asked, “How much money does it take to make a man happy?” He said, “Just a little more.”
In stark contrast, the Apostle Paul says in 2 Corinthians 4:18, “We don’t look around at what we see right now, the troubles all around us. But we look forward to the joys in heaven.”
You don’t need to have what others have, be liked by everyone or have more than what you have now to be content.
I can’t afford to spend time comparing myself to other people or in the futile pursuit of more. I keep my eyes on a far greater hope and purpose.
Another is to adjust to change.
Life is full of ups and downs — emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially. One thing is certain in life: change.
Change is going to happen whether you like it or not and we must be flexible because circumstances usually aren’t.
How well do you handle change? Do you get frightened? Moody? Angry? Uptight?
Your happiness in life will be largely dependant upon your ability to adapt, adjust, and be flexible.
What is the secret of a content and happy life? Learn to relax, trust God, avoid comparing yourself and adjust to change.